An Excerpt From the Award-Winning Tell-All
Lucy and CeCee's How to Survive (and Thrive) in Middle School
Breaking up is hard to do. Sometimes you’re the dumper; sometimes you’re the dumpee. Either way, it’s no fun to break up. So here are some tips on how to make the inevitably painful – painless (or at least with a shot of Novocain).
WHEN YOU’RE THE DUMPER-
Don’t put it off. If you know it’s not going to work or you’re crushing big time on someone else, then by all means – break up. Remember:
♥ You don’t need an audience to call it quits. Break up in private to maintain his dignity.
♥ Keep it short and sweet. Don’t go into little details as to why he didn’t measure up. Pssst – Guys have fragile egos. Be gentle!!
♥ Although it’s a cliché, tell him you want to remain friends. (This may have to wait a while if the guy is really into you. A bruised ego takes time to heal!)
♥ If you’re breaking up because you’re crushing on someone else, be sure not to flaunt your new dude in front of him. Ouch!!
♥ When you do the actual deed, take a deep breath, look him in the eye, and just tell him you don't think it’s going to work.
♥ Break up in person, face-to-face. Breaking up via Myspace, email, AIM, and Twitter show a lack of class and character. If you can’t see him in person, tell him on the phone. Most importantly, don’t have a friend do it for you. YOU went out with him - YOU should break up with him.
♥ Don’t take the easy way out and just blow him off. If you’re not into him, be up front and honest. And don’t ever bash him to your friends afterwards, especially if he cries. Warning: guys cry.
Of course what comes around goes around, and you will in fact some day be broken up with. It’s all part of playing the game of love. Here’s how to keep the tears from flowing:
♥ Allow yourself to be sad but not for too long. A couple days of shutting the shades, playing sappy music, and reading old notes should do it. After that, you just become a burden to yourself and those around you.
♥ Reinvent yourself!!! Get a new pair of jeans, a haircut, or a mani-pedi. Feel good about yourself.
♥ Although it may seem otherwise, realize that it's not the end of the world. Next time you’ll meet someone better who will appreciate you for you (flaws and all). Remember you’re young. You still have the rest of your life to find your soul mate
♥ Crush on a new crush. The great thing about love is your bound to love again.
Don't try to make the person you broke up with jealous. You'll only look disparate and needy.