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Find a good candidate starting with someone who likes you for you. Other quality traits to look for in a guy are sweet, funny, and genuine. And let’s face it: cute doesn’t hurt, either. Stay away from boys who ego trip or only think about themselves.
When talking to him the first few times, you may be a little nervous. If so, ask him questions about himself or his classes. Here are some good questions to ask:
§ What are you listening to on your iPod?
§ Do you have (name a teacher)? How is your project coming along?
§ Are you going to the football game on Friday?
§ Do you know what time the bell rings?
Try to be friends first and get to know him in a casual setting. This will make the going-out stuff less awkward.
If you want to ask a guy out, approach him when he’s alone—not when he’s hanging with “the guys” and absolutely not when he’s talking with another girl. If the coast is clear, pop a breath mint, take a deep breath, and go for it!
Do a little recon investigation, and find out what your dude is into. If he likes sports, talk about a local or state team; if he likes music, chat up tunes and bands.
Don’t talk too much about yourself. For most guys, this is a turnoff.
If he makes a joke, laugh. Guys like to think they belong on Comedy Central.
If you’re apt to blush when you gush, don’t fret. Most guys think this is cute.
Make signs that you like him and are interested by smiling, making eye contact, lightly touching his arm, and the like.
It sounds dorky, but practice talking to your crush in the mirror. When the time comes, you’ll be a silver-tongued smoothie.
Helpful Hint #1: Don’t be a stalker.* Guys are pretty simple to figure out. If they like you, you’ll know it. If they don’t, move on.
Helpful Hint #2: Don’t have a friend tell his friend to tell his friend that you like him. Do your love work yourself! It shows confidence!