An Excerpt From the Award-Winning Tell-All
Lucy and CeCee's How to Survive (and Thrive) in Middle School
If you’re lucky enough to have a B.F.F., you should value and treasure her. Someone you can laugh and cry with, dream and gripe with, who loves you at your best and accepts you at your worst is a gift under ordinary circumstances. In middle school, it’s a blessing.
On the other hand, if you don’t have a B.F.F., don’t stress. Friendships take time to foster and grow. Here are some ways to get and keep a B.F.F.:
♥ Be true to yourself. Don’t ever act like someone you’re not or compromise your principles.
♥ Listen as much as you talk. Give advice only when asked for or when necessary.
♥ Be trustworthy. Keep secrets secret.
♥ Spend time together. Like a plant, friendships need to be tended to or they die.
♥ Find activities you both like to do together, whether it be shopping, scrapbooking, or cochillin’ on the biPod.
♥ Praise her for her accomplishments and she should do the same for you. Be each other’s secret cheerleaders.
♥ Don’t be overly competitive.
♥ Avoid jealousy. Obviously your friend is going to have some qualities you find admirable or you wouldn’t be friends with her. Nonetheless you shouldn’t envy those things. If you are the jealous type, work on your own self-esteem and be grateful for what you have.
The B.F.F. Tiff
All B.F.F.’s squabble once in a while. When you do have an argument, give your B.F.F. some time and space to reflect about the situation. Then talk it out and really listen to her concerns and ask that she do the same for you. In the interim, don’t bad mouth or start rumors about her. If you both respect the relationship, your squabble should blow over and you’ll be B.F.F.’s again before you know it.
SECRET THOUGHTS BY LUCY:
CeCee and I have been B.F.F.’s since our sandbox days. Sure we get into little tiffies, like the time she wouldn’t let me copy her homework. But we get over it. We’ll be B.F.F.’s for a long time I’m sure, although lately I worry that she could get into the Kandi Klass Club. I see Kandi trying to talk to her like she’s someone really cool. It freaks me out and makes me all crazy with jealousy. Also, CeCee is so pretty, it’s scary - especially when she takes off her glasses. I curse the day she gets contacts.
SECRET THOUGHTS BY CECEE:
Lucy is the quintessential best friend. Okay, maybe she’s not as principled as I would like and her morality can be a little slippery, but she means well and has a good heart. Also, her loyalty is off the charts. The girl would fight off a swarm of soul-snatching sorceresses for me without so much as a thought. I just fret that sometimes that she could be accepted into the popular A-crowd and forget about me. She’s so gregarious and I’m such a social clodhopper, it’s bound to happen. But I have to believe she’s better than that. After all, trustworthiness is most important when it comes to B.F.F.’s and Lucy has never proven traitorous in any circumstance. Hence, Lucy’s the ultimate!!
HOW TO MAKE A B.F.F. SCRAPBOOK
Lots of B.F.F.’s keep a scrapbook of their memories. It’s a cool way to celebrate your friendship. Here’s how:
♥ Buy a big photo album and blow up a picture of you and your best friend for the cover page. Decorate the page with drawings, sparkles, and stickers.
♥ Have a B.F.F. dedication page where you each write everything you love about your best friend.
♥ Decorate pages with pictures and make captions. Examples: trips to the mall, sleepovers, getting ready for school dances, etc.
♥ Write on topics that interest you both, such as school, family, crushes, dreams, fears, etc.
Warning: Make sure your scrapbook stays private and out of the hands of bratty brothers, snooping sisters, and prying parents. Decide on a place where you will keep the scrapbook - hopefully under lock and key.